1. Why and when did you first relax your hair? What is your hair story BEFORE your BC?
I think my mum said she starting relaxing me and my sisters hair when we were 4.It was simply easier for her to do because she didn’t have a lot of time on her hands to sit through and comb all that 4b/c hair amidst all our oohhs and owws.
So it was relaxed and whatnot and about shoulder length. We used to live in Kyrgyzstan (Central Asia)*hint hint* no Black people to do our hair so our hair evolved around a routine: braid cornrow (all back), undo, wash, relax every 3 months approx. The winter time (-25 C) didn’t do us any good either and there was no much we could do about it.
After so many years of relaxing, I started feeling this sore patch on my scalp that always hurt when I touched it. I think it was broken skin or something but I’ll never know. Since I stop relaxing though, the soreness in that area has magically disappeared!
Told you this girl could be a model (Relaxed Hair 2009)
Relaxed Hair 2008
2. What made you decide to finally do the Big Chop? What were your feelings and thoughts when you did it?
AHHH what made me decide to do the BIG CHOP..hmm..I think the first time I heard about it, some research was saying relaxing hair can cause cancer or something like that so I was kind of curious about that. Then I stumbled across your blog and the plenitude and plethora (new vocabulary words from school) ehem*thank you..thank you..applause later* of natural hair info was simply effusive and I started getting excited, jumpy and jittery(a good thing).
And also, I’m all for the politics around why black people relax their hair and it breaks me when they say ‘’ohh it’s not manageable.., you can’t do anything to it..THATS JUST UGLY S***. blah blah*
People forget to see that it’s our roots that we have forgotten and the fact that we are trying to be people we are not. We willingly discard the beauty that is God’s gift to us and are constantly searching for something else. How else will we be ever satisfied? Africans need to start claiming what’s rightfully theirs. So right now I don’t know if the word is content but I am grateful and content for the hair that I have. People can talk all they want but at least I’ve accepted my identity and I bask in its glory whether you like it or not ;P
So I cut it December 2009...a new look for 2010 I was saying. I was also 14(I’m going be 16 next month just so that y’all mark that on your calendars) and I never felt so free in my whole life. I went to the salon with my mum and sister and aunt and cousin and as the lady was cutting it I was laughing! So much joy! I was just laughing! My aunt and cousin thought I was probably the weirdest relative ever. My aunt was even making a joke about all that money we used to relax my hair all the time and how we could have built that dream house we always wished for with it. I was simply laughing my head off! No regrets.
I look up close in the mirror now and I just adore my curls. They are so pretty oh my gosh! I now have the chance to fall in love with my curls for the first time.
Little Miss K's Curl Pattern
3. What reactions have you received since doing the BC from your friends and family?
UHm the reactions have been mixed to say the least. My first week at school after cutting it(low cut) most of my friends liked it and said I looked like a model..(but of course)*blush*The ‘’senior citizens’’ in my family as my sister likes to call them don’t see the beauty in it I don’t think. It’s either combed all neatly or it’s not presentable at all. They always complain about it when I don’t see anything to complain about. When I go home to Ghana during the summer the friends there are also used to the dress code of their secondary boarding schools that only allow short cropped ‘‘neat’’ hair...whatever that means. Your hair grows more than 2 inches and it’s still not cut? Please just don’t bother coming to school.
So here I am with my more than 2 inches hair and they don’t understand. So I have had a few not so pleasant comments but I’m still growing my ‘fro cuz the sky is the limit :P
Kiki and Her Sister (Yes, she got her sister to also go natural)
I use a bunch of natural oils on my hair to seal in moisture because it’s so dry in Senegal it’s deadly! I also use the Organic root Stimulator Olive Oil Aloe Shampoo until I find a sulphate free shampoo (fingers crossed soon!) Also the Organic Root Stimulator Hair Mayonnaise and lots and lots and lots of Shea Butter.
5. What are your natural hair goals?
I want big ass hair!!!I know there’s nothing special about that ‘cuz most people also want that but yeah..BAA.
And I guess with BAA comes length. I want to be able to straighten it and curl it and do errthangg with it if you know what I mean...yes you do.
I’m also trying to use only natural hair products so that it just feels more authentic? Does that make sense? And finally I want others to see the beauty in natural hair through the way I carry myself with my own hair
6. What is the best thing for you about being natural?
Well for one, I’m different from all the other girls in my school who either have weaves or are relaxed. So I guess I stand out. well..:p .Secondly,I don’t have to be at a salon for more than 3 hours because I’m doing the whole package(washing treating relaxing blow drying..the whole SHABAM.)nah uh not for meh. Lastly I can rock different styles on a daily basis: short hair when I wash it, twist outs, cornrow, just downright big afro hair! Full Stop. Cuz I’m just that fabulous! teehee <3
My hair is about 6 inches long when stretched but because it’s extremely coily it does not look like it. I love my hair!
Kiki on the right rocking a TWA, May 2010
October 2010, (So jealous of you living by the beach)
Big up to you Kiki!