Pregnancy | 5 things that made it easier for me

Tuesday, December 19, 2017

My mother always says that when I was 4 year's old, I declared that I did not have any interest in having children. Cue life and a mere 25+ years later, I write this with an almost 6 month old lying next to me milk drunk and enjoying whatever it is he dreams about. 

Add to that my fear of getting pregnant in my twenties was crippling, I always imagined that I would be the pregnant lady chewing stones, spitting into a small bucket every few minutes, swollen ankles, lips, nose and with new stretchmarks from my forehead to my ankles. This thing called Life though has a funny way of playing out and I ended up having a rather easy pregnancy and succumbed to a few not so glamorous symptoms. 

That second trimester joy

I have gotten a number of requests to share some things that helped me through the 38 weeks and 6 days of my pregnancy so here goes.

Disclaimer: This is my first pregnancy and the next one may be super hard.

1. Be Zen. Channel a monk and try to slowly purposefully glide through life. I got pregnant during a super hard time. The bank my husband had been working in had recently folded, I had been managing a hellish project, there was the possibility of moving to Abu Dhabi which eventually happened and that came with its own baggage. I basically managed to find a doctor to deliver my baby by going to a hospital website , looking through the pictures of OBGYNs and choosing the one with the kindest face a mere 3 months to giving birth. That does not count the stress of moving to a new place in the middle of 45 degree celcius summer and the loneliness of it. Through all of this, I constantly told myself to remain calm and be happy if only for my little boy. 

2. Exercise. This one is hard ladies, but even a 20min walk will help. I was able to fit in exercise through lots of housework, Yoga Videos on Youtube and when at 33 weeks the doctor told me to start walking more to get the baby engaged I started walking up and down 4 flights of stairs 5 times coz it was 40 degrees outside.

3. Eat 5 -6 small meals a day. Channel a hobbit and eat breakfast then second breakfast etc. I found this kept me from overeating whilst keeping the hunger at bay. My sample day went as below

8.00 - Oatmeal with milk and half a banana

10.30 - 1 piece of toast with peanut butter

1.00 - Rice with beans and spinach

3.00 - Yogurt with an apple

6.30 - Spaghetti with mince

9.00 - Cookie

4. Douse yourself in oil. My self-care routine mainly involved rubbing my belly and body with SheaButter, Coconut, Macadamia, Olive, Avocado....all of the oils basically! I was expecting to get stretchmarks coz my bum and thighs are covered with them but surprisingly I didnt. I will say though, if you are going to get stretchmarks you will get them, sadly its the luck of the draw!

5. Don't sweat the small stuff. So you put on 15kgs and the doctors recommend you gain 11kgs, You had some sushi, After a long day you had a small glass of red wine.
Policing pregnant women is like an Olympic sport, everyone has an opinion on what you should eat, wear, drink, do. Do what your gut tells you and don't sweat it! 

What tips do you mamas have? 

Motherhood | You make it look easy

Tuesday, October 24, 2017

"Wow, You make motherhood look so easy". That is a statement I hear all the time from my Instagram page.

It seems that early Motherhood should always be presented as a very difficult journey with a deranged looking like woman whose hair is matted, swollen boobs hanging out, slightly smells of milk as well as Body Odour and is completely devoted to keeping a little human alive and well.

It is fair enough and true that motherhood is difficult but it is also one of the most rewarding thing a woman can do ( shoutout to all mums). There are times you will be dressed to the nines and dressed your offspring in a matching outfit but there are also the sweatpants and "no shower for you maam" kinda days. You could try to present a "perfect mum aesthetic" on social media but there are some things that all mums can admit to have done at one time or another.

Below, I would like to share some of my motherhood fails or wins depending on how you see it;

- Almost opening the door of our flat to a delivery man with my denim shirt open and boob hanging out of my nursing bra and a huge milk stain forming from the other boob,

- Going to the toilet for a number 1 with baby strapped to me in a sling. I refuse to do a number 2 with my son in the same room as me,

- Sleeping with my boob hanging out coz I am too tired to clasp the bra back up when I know in a few hours little man will be demanding his dues

- Cuddles with the husband and leaving a puddle of milk on his chest ( well they do say breastmilk is good for skin)

Would love to hear about some of your mum fails (read wins). 

The Issue | Things I am Unashamedly doing as a Mum

Thursday, October 5, 2017

Unsolicited advice is probably the bane of a new mum's existence! The advice comes from everyone and everywhere, some of it is excellent and some is just (face palm) completely unnecessary!Keeping this in mind, I thought I would share the things that I am unashamedly doing as a mum that may go against the advice most mum's receive. 

1. Letting my bubbah nap on me ( he is napping one me right now, as I type this)
As a new mum you always get that advice that if you hold your child or let your baby sleep on you all the time, you will spoil them. I call BS on this! How is a 1-3 month old baby who has no concept of Cause and Effect able to be spoiled. I will keep savouring each minute that he is able to nap on me, kiss the top of his head and chuckle when I think of how he folds his little legs like a frog. 

2. Co-sleeping
Before little man was born, I was adamant that he would sleep in his cot from Day 1. After he was born, he slept in his Bassinet in hospital and immediately moved in to our bed. Safe co-sleeping has helped us sleep better and he sleeps for a solid 12 hrs with two wake ups every night. He is now in his cot and is happy to sleep there but of course I normally sneak him in on weekends.

Beer is Nourishing

3. Alcohol
I am that mum in the restaurant having a beer whilst breastfeeding a baby. This can be super controversial but according to my research, a very small percentage of alcohol goes into your breastmilk and the biggest fear about Mum's drinking is potential accidents if you get a bit too drunk. I never get drunk and always stick to two beers or two glasses of wine. It helps keep me sane.
A perk of having a beer is that it really increases my supply the next day!

4. Overdressing
I learnt the hard way when bubbah got heat rash when he was 5 weeks old. I had been putting on too many layers on him despite the advice that it is better for them to be cool than too hot. 
I love dressing my little guy in just a onesie and seeing his little chubby legs.  

What unsolicited advice have you gone against? Would love to hear it!

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